Translation by: Ariq Zaidan (11 th - 2016)

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Parent's Guide : Part 4 Parental's Do's n Don'ts

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As the parent of a young basketball player, it's your job to create a positive environment for your child, and to be committed on your part. Here's a short list to help you do just that:

1. Avoid PGA (Post Game Analysis). Within minutes of the end of the game, players usually  are in the car with their families heading home. During the drive home, several well-meaning parents provide a post-game analysis that the child did well, or not so well, during the game.

   ​From a parent's perspective, this observation seems perfectly valid to be discussed. "Also," said the concerned parent, "it is very important to discuss what my child is doing in the game while the game is still fresh in his mind."​ 
   The problem is that PGA can quickly destroy your child's interest. After all, no one wants to be analyzed or criticized right after the game is over? Especially if there are friends who are in the car too.  That's the coach's job. Ladies and gentlemen, your child needs rest.
    

2. Don't position yourself as the "perfect example." If you're like most parents, you want to help your child with the basics based on your own experience. But how do you do that without sounding like a know-it-all old-timer? In most kids' minds, there's a real line between teaching them or trying to show off. Always remember that you should be there for your son or daughter, not the other way around. Next time, wait for your child to come to you and ask for guidance. That's the most effective approach for you and your child.
    

3. Avoid shouting or yelling from the sidelines during matches. If you must make a sound, make sure you offer praise and support. No young player on the field wants to hear their parents screaming at officials, coaches, other players, or even worse, at their children. Set a good example for other parents by praising good things, also for the opposing team.
    

4. No need to provide game instructions. Ever heard of parents directing every play on the field? Leave the "play-by-play" habit. Let the children play. They really don't need your instructions while they are playing and enjoying the game. And, it can make it difficult for your child's coach to direct play. That is the coach's job.
    

5. No need to take this game more seriously than your child. Your job, as a parent, is to provide positive support for your child, regardless of how well they play or who wins. Your child will see your reaction to their appearance. If they see your visibly disappointed mood after a bad play, they'll pick up on that and react the same way. Teach them to maintain even balance in the face of victory or defeat, and you will both benefit.